"Argument" is not such a bad word. Don't be too upset when I said you guys argued. =)
Merriam-Webster dictionary: Argument - a: a reason given in proof or rebuttal b: discourse intended to persuade. From the translation, looks like argument can mean trying to clarify things through a dialogue; written or verbal. Not so bad right?... and not so... twisted... I suppose.
Anw, my main concern is more to our classmate's relationship with one another, not really the argument in blogs thing. Because argument in blogs are mostly the cause of misunderstanding. And this misunderstanding is very common because people tend to indirectly pose the post to someone without the name written there. So people start drawing conclusions and all... and this misunderstanding can hurt people. Which is a sad thing.
Well whatever, enough said. For those of you that joined, tmr's the first day we can trade! All the best people! =)
What a blunt post?!
Well well well, whaddaya know? Blogging is ON again! Hmmm… perhaps it never died in the first place… sometimes people are just… absent…
Anw, it’s pretty sad seeing my classmates arguing in blogs… and having problems with each other in real life… Perhaps it’s pretty common, but I never saw this coming from my sweet-loving class of C185; at least I do now.
Sigh… I was too ignorant and unaware of things happening around me. Glad that I had a chance to chat to one of my buddy in class and got updates on things happening. I was like, wow… so many things and yet I failed to see it? =/
But to be blunt, few of you, my dear classmates, can be a real jerk sometimes. X)
But, nawh… I can’t bring myself to hate any of you. We’re young and it’s the best time to jerk and bitch around with others, so I don’t really blame anyone. Once we got into our working lives, we wont be able to do this as open as we do now coz we never know who’ll backstab us.
That’s why I like a quote I read somewhere… it goes like, if youth were to come a little later in life, things would be ideal… or something like that. And I totally agree. =)
We’re just immature bunch who doesn’t realize the preciousness of our moments in life. Some (I hope not any of you reading this) doesn’t even appreciate living, for whatever reason. Maybe abusive family background, parents very bad, divorced, heart broken, betrayed by best friend and so on and so forth. But, c’mon… most of the times youth are trapped in the darkness of their despair only because they failed to lift their head, open their eyes, and see the light. Take a look around you, and come and let me know if you are unable to find ANY precious things or people around you worth living for.
And friends, please reduce the tendency to be judgmental to others? And before I continue, I know one of you wrote about this topic also and I want to let you know that this is nothing like a reply to your entry or anything like that… just so happen I wanna talk about this also… and so you don’t need to quote from my blog also. =))
Going back, I know it’s very very hard not to be judgmental. Coz I have to say, we are living in a judgmental society… I find Singapore to be one of the places with a very high level of it. Maybe that’s why I’m so out of place sometimes? Back in Indo, friends can just argue and shoot each other and bad mouth each other in front of each other’s faces and still got no hard feelings. It’s pretty hard to explain and I’m too lazy to give an example, but that’s how it was.
Wah, try it on any of your friends here… “Eh, please la, dun like that lei! Very irritating le!” and the next thing you know he’ll thinking *wah, wtf, whotf he think he is sia talk to me like that?* but still will say “ok, ok, sorry”. Why? Coz you automatically think that if people say that and tell you to shut your trap in a not very smooth way, they’re against you… well, I think I shalln’t stereotype and use “you”. Maybe you’re not like that. But I know it’s a common way of thinking here. I juust use “you” but it doesn’t necessarily means you, ok? It’s easier to write. =P
Like, imagine I come to you and tell you that you’re a jerk and you should change. Instead of asking for explanation and be open, wont you just want to kill me and never talk to me again? Hehe… vulnerable friendship we have around here.
Thing is, everyone thinks differently and speaks differently. One may say something to two different people and each one of them will catch different meaning to it. If you are unsure or offended with the speech, the best thing to do is not to take it the hard way and go home bitter, but to speak up and ask for clarification… communication, friends… communication… if you can just speak openly to each other, things would be great. But openly doesn’t mean publicly. Like blog argument? It’s too public. It will never bring any good. And the sickening part is you are obliged to keep the names unwritten. X)
It’s kinda childish…
C185, I know all of you love our class and wished it was like last year. Well, maybe some of you say you don’t care anymore but how can you not miss such unity and fostered bond? Communicate, be open and be understanding…
Personally I can tell you this… I may dislike the way some of you behave or some of your actions, but I never hate you in person. There must always be an explanation of why you do things the way you did or why you behave the way you behaved. I am not you so I won’t understand and I won’t act like I understand; I have no right to draw conclusions from you. Now, any of you that read this, felt compelled to let me know the problems you got against me or why I did this or that or whatever explanation you need from me, sms me and we’ll chat it over…
OR you are all free to sms me some love sms and let me know how much you appreciate my presence! XP
But seriously, I wished all of us can be more open and be more understanding… clear any doubts you have with each other and embrace once again the things dear to you. We have become friends and no more acquaintances – please don’t go back to the latter…
Anw, it’s pretty sad seeing my classmates arguing in blogs… and having problems with each other in real life… Perhaps it’s pretty common, but I never saw this coming from my sweet-loving class of C185; at least I do now.
Sigh… I was too ignorant and unaware of things happening around me. Glad that I had a chance to chat to one of my buddy in class and got updates on things happening. I was like, wow… so many things and yet I failed to see it? =/
But to be blunt, few of you, my dear classmates, can be a real jerk sometimes. X)
But, nawh… I can’t bring myself to hate any of you. We’re young and it’s the best time to jerk and bitch around with others, so I don’t really blame anyone. Once we got into our working lives, we wont be able to do this as open as we do now coz we never know who’ll backstab us.
That’s why I like a quote I read somewhere… it goes like, if youth were to come a little later in life, things would be ideal… or something like that. And I totally agree. =)
We’re just immature bunch who doesn’t realize the preciousness of our moments in life. Some (I hope not any of you reading this) doesn’t even appreciate living, for whatever reason. Maybe abusive family background, parents very bad, divorced, heart broken, betrayed by best friend and so on and so forth. But, c’mon… most of the times youth are trapped in the darkness of their despair only because they failed to lift their head, open their eyes, and see the light. Take a look around you, and come and let me know if you are unable to find ANY precious things or people around you worth living for.
And friends, please reduce the tendency to be judgmental to others? And before I continue, I know one of you wrote about this topic also and I want to let you know that this is nothing like a reply to your entry or anything like that… just so happen I wanna talk about this also… and so you don’t need to quote from my blog also. =))
Going back, I know it’s very very hard not to be judgmental. Coz I have to say, we are living in a judgmental society… I find Singapore to be one of the places with a very high level of it. Maybe that’s why I’m so out of place sometimes? Back in Indo, friends can just argue and shoot each other and bad mouth each other in front of each other’s faces and still got no hard feelings. It’s pretty hard to explain and I’m too lazy to give an example, but that’s how it was.
Wah, try it on any of your friends here… “Eh, please la, dun like that lei! Very irritating le!” and the next thing you know he’ll thinking *wah, wtf, whotf he think he is sia talk to me like that?* but still will say “ok, ok, sorry”. Why? Coz you automatically think that if people say that and tell you to shut your trap in a not very smooth way, they’re against you… well, I think I shalln’t stereotype and use “you”. Maybe you’re not like that. But I know it’s a common way of thinking here. I juust use “you” but it doesn’t necessarily means you, ok? It’s easier to write. =P
Like, imagine I come to you and tell you that you’re a jerk and you should change. Instead of asking for explanation and be open, wont you just want to kill me and never talk to me again? Hehe… vulnerable friendship we have around here.
Thing is, everyone thinks differently and speaks differently. One may say something to two different people and each one of them will catch different meaning to it. If you are unsure or offended with the speech, the best thing to do is not to take it the hard way and go home bitter, but to speak up and ask for clarification… communication, friends… communication… if you can just speak openly to each other, things would be great. But openly doesn’t mean publicly. Like blog argument? It’s too public. It will never bring any good. And the sickening part is you are obliged to keep the names unwritten. X)
It’s kinda childish…
C185, I know all of you love our class and wished it was like last year. Well, maybe some of you say you don’t care anymore but how can you not miss such unity and fostered bond? Communicate, be open and be understanding…
Personally I can tell you this… I may dislike the way some of you behave or some of your actions, but I never hate you in person. There must always be an explanation of why you do things the way you did or why you behave the way you behaved. I am not you so I won’t understand and I won’t act like I understand; I have no right to draw conclusions from you. Now, any of you that read this, felt compelled to let me know the problems you got against me or why I did this or that or whatever explanation you need from me, sms me and we’ll chat it over…
OR you are all free to sms me some love sms and let me know how much you appreciate my presence! XP
But seriously, I wished all of us can be more open and be more understanding… clear any doubts you have with each other and embrace once again the things dear to you. We have become friends and no more acquaintances – please don’t go back to the latter…
